About Kayar Silkenvoice (click here to listen)
I don't know about you, but me, I like to know who I am
inviting into my head. Which, by listening to my audios, you are undoubtedly
doing--inviting me into your head, that is.
So, I'd like to take a moment to introduce myself, give you a feel for who I
am and why I'm doing this.
I should begin by stating that I've been a student of sexuality since early childhood--I grew up in a communal hippie environment whose informal motto was Free Love, Free Grass, and Free
Thinking. As a consequence of this unconventional upbringing, I developed an
unfettered sexual identity. I was not conditioned to the sexual norms of
society, so it never occurred to me that there was
anything unnatural or 'dirty' about sex. And of course, it didn't occur to me
that there was anything different about my upbringing or attitudes--all the
children I knew were raised the same way. But eventually the community broke up
and we hit the mainstream and I attended public school and met 'normal'
children, parents, and teachers. I am sure you can imagine the culture shock
:)
When I was a teen I realized that a lot of people my
age had hang-ups about sex. This fascinated me. And made me sad. Life is
challenging enough--it seemed such a wrongness to carry shame and guilt about
something so integral to our being. So I tried to remedy
it one person at a time, encouraging my friends and lovers to explore the
wonderful world of uninhibited sexual self-expression.
A couple of years ago I was seeing a life
coach and very early on she told me that I had one of the healthiest attitudes
toward sex that she had ever come across. We spoke at length about sexual
repression and psychopathology, and how so much of her practice involved helping
people recognize and break down the sexual blocks they'd developed as children
and young adults. It was slow-going, she said, and there were no guarantees of
success.
When I entered therapy I also decided to enter a period of
celibacy. As a result of the sexual frustration, I started having vivid erotic
dreams. Dreams so vivid that I could only get them out of my mind by writing
them down. I shared them with friends, who found them very erotic as well, and
they shared them with their friends. I started getting feedback about how my
stories created a safe space to explore topics that they normally would not
have. This pleased me a great deal.
And so I began creating more stories, trying to touch on
areas I knew people had hang-ups and fantasies about, trying to write them
realistically, evocatively, so anyone could put themselves into the scenario
without need to suspend disbelief--and still feel 'safe'.
It is my hope to
awaken more people to the sensual immediacy of life--in all its delicious
variety--with an eye (ear?) toward enriching their sexual relationships with
themselves and their partners.
Thank you for this opportunity to touch your
life,
Kayar Silkenvoice